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Gracefully Frank

My alarm went off this morning at 3:45. That is a dumb time for an alarm to go off. But, I set it to that time on purpose. It’s a big day. I tumbled out of bed and stumbled to the kitchen and poured myself a cup of ambition. I yawned and stretched and tried to come to life. I drank in some coffee, drank in some Word, got dressed, grabbed my bag and headed to the airport. 

I arrived at Love Field at 5:00 am, and to my shock they did not have the red carpet with my name on it rushing me to the front of a verrrry long security check line. I started thinking “I’m not going to make it.” I will have to drive, and by the time I get there it will all be over.” However, at 5:45 I cleared security after having my bag searched, and had 5 minutes to get to my gate. Only one child wearing a top heavy turtle backpack maybe got slightly pushed as he wandered into my stride. I got to the gate and yelled to the attendant across the empty seats and the maybe 20 people who were still waiting to board “Is this the flight to Tulsa?” She said “yes.” So I said again “All these people are going to Tulsa?” apparently I wasn’t able to take her word for it. She said “yes,” again and somebody’s mom looked at me and nodded confirmation. Ok. I’m going to make it. In a few hours I will be in Barnsdall. 213 W. Main Street, Barnsdall, OK to be exact.

But first…I get to watch the sunrise from 22,000ft in the air. My heart may burst. This morning my Jesus Calling devotional began with these words: “Bring me the sacrifice of thanksgiving. Take nothing for granted, not even the rising of the sun.” Check.



Today 213 W. Main St. is filled with boxes. Boxes that will be carried out of the house she has lived in for over 40 years, and into the new Senior Living apartment home she will live in by the end of this day. All sweet. No bitter. Those of us she taught to sew, taught to cook, taught to not say the words Pa tried to teach us to say, will carry her boxes for her and caravan her to her new town as if she were a queen. Those of us who left her house a mess after building bookin’ houses with sheets and blankets in the back bedrooms. Those of us who took baths while she fixed us malts. Those of us who would scream when she would bust open the door in the morning singing “Rise And Shine And Give God The Glory Glory.” Those of us who she took out to Nelagoney and let us drive her car…when we were 11. Those of us who pushed the curfew as we found weekend boyfriends in Barnsdall. Those of us who drug her picture albums out and laughed till we cried. Those of us who sang “9 to 5,” “You Light Up My Life,” and whatever Baptist Hymnal songs we knew standing on our stage (the hearth of her fireplace.) Those of us who had our pictures taken by her pink ladies each year at Easter. Those of us who wore dresses she made (some of these are obviously from a granddaughter perspective and not grandson). Those of us who have told her our good news and have heard her almost gasp and say “Praise the Lord.” Those of us who watched her roll her eyes at Pa, followed by a grin, followed by the words “Pull your pants up Melvy.” (He didn’t have much of a rear.) Those of us who have sang harmony with her, sat by her in the pew, stood by her at funerals and drank coffee with her on her porch. Those of us who are better people for having been loved by her, for having witnessed her faith in Jesus Christ, for having been taught life lessons by a woman of her character. We are those of us in this picture taken a few years ago for her Christmas present; the kids of her kids Glenda, Karla and Mike. Jennifer, Lane, Me, Riann, Emily, Chris and Mindy. The rest of us are Tim, Jeana, Derick, Kyle, Ty, Trent, Parker, Baby Girl Swanson due in September, Josh, JD, Macy, Leigh, Jordan, Kaitlyn, Shawn, Ryland, Isaac and Hope.



“An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life. She seeks wool and flax and works with willing hands. She is like the ships of the merchant; she brings her food from afar. She rises while it is yet night, and provides food for her household and portions for her maidens. She considers a field and buys it; with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard. She dresses herself with strength and makes her arms strong. She perceives that her merchandise is profitable. Her lamp does not go out at night, and her hands hold the spindle. She opens her hand to the poor and reaches out her hands to the needy. She is not afraid of snow for her household, for all her household are clothed in scarlet. She makes bed coverings for herself; her clothing is fine linen and purple. Her husband is known in the gates when he sits among the elders of the land. She makes linen garments and sells them; she delivers sashes to the merchant. Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come. She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: “Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all.” Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands, and let her works praise her in the gates.” Proverbs 31:10-31 – that describes her just about perfectly. Just don’t try to tickle her feet.  Her gentleness is lost and she’ll kick you in the face without even blinking.

Bonnie Lou Robertson Harmon. When I have my computer that has her pictures, I will post one of her here. :)


Little Girl Bonnie, Nelagony, OK


That's Bonnie in the middle, cousins on both sides.


Cork and Bonnie's Wedding Day.  She's wearing a gray dress suit and red heels. :)


Dad, Mom, Glenda and Karla.


Corky, Bonnie, Glenda, Karla and Mike.


Bonnie and her smile.



Granny B.
Those of us who will carry her boxes are the ones who arise and call her blessed. We are the same ones who will probably be a little too loud today as we move her into her new place, probably laugh a little too much when we should be working, and probably get a little teary as we say goodbye to the house we lived and loved in our whole lives. The good thing is…we take the love with us. It isn’t the house, although we cherish it. It isn’t the town, although we'll miss it. It’s the family.

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I have been storytelling on this blog for almost a year. It's my favorite toy. It's my testimony. It's one way I try to share how God's grace comes through in my life. It's a canvas I love to decorate. It’s the…I can’t think of any other cheesy metaphors to put here. Well, actually, I can. But, I’ll stop anyway.

I write today sitting in a big gazebo. The kind you see in old movies in the middle of a town square.  The wind and the nearby train whistle are blowing, like the American and Texas flags over my head...and my hair in my face. I just walked through Georgia’s Farmer’s Market where I will buy  produce for my table and geraniums for my balconette, when I move to this neighborhood in June. I just signed the lease and am already enjoying the neighborhood.


I don’t know how long I will live here, but as of yesterday, I know when I will live here. Like Ponca City, Edmond, Stillwater, Tulsa, Barnsdall, Fort Worth, and Carrollton…Plano will soon be a town where I once lived. It is the first place that I have chosen to live since leaving Tulsa. Even though Ladybird Manor ended up being one of my favorite places ever, I didn’t go into it by choice, but by necessity. Where I live now has been safe and comfortable, but by necessity.  I'm surprised at how much joy this move is giving me and its still two months away. It's also only a 4 minute drive to work, which means no more anger management moments on the highway! I’ve been looking here for over a year just waiting for the timing to be right, and it seems as though it is.  Philippians 4:19

This moment of serenity was just interrupted by a little boy who got too adventurous, apparently crossed a boundary his mom had set, and suffered the consequence about 6 feet from me. Live and learn little guy. His wild eyed smile was worth my being interrupted. I kind of have a wild eyed smile right now too…but, this is not an adventurous escape like he just tried to commit. I have had my share of those, and suffered the same consequence as him. This is another adventure in faith that  continually leaves me being Surprised By Joy; which is the name of a book by C.S. Lewis I picked up yesterday at Barnes & Noble before dinner at Cheesecake Factory with a friend. What a lovely weekend.

I’ve started working on something else aside from this blog, and if you are reading this, I would love your input.  I am asking for you to share a story with me this time. I am really interested in examining our motivations for doing life. The people, places, things we build our life around. In my life I have had all sorts of motivations. Some have meant good for me, and some have meant not good for me. Maybe that is the same for you? I also know sometimes I haven’t even stopped to consider my motivation, and I just set off for the goal. Why did I even have that goal? We just barrel through, sometimes confidently, sometimes flailing. In examining our motivations we may find the inspiration to make a change; or we may find the confirmation to be still. No two stories, no two motivations are the same.

So, I’m doing a little research, and maybe this blog will be a catalyst to gather some motivations stories. A little different take on the usual “motivational” stories we like to share. Personal experiences and stories are how we learn. 

Professionally, I am a counselor now which means I have actually been trained in confidentiality. It’s not a superpower, but it is a promise. I may tell my own stories as frankly as even I am sometimes uncomfortable to share them, but I would not share yours in the same way. The project I'm working on is not for this blog. If you are so gracious to share a story with me, that would mean you are ok with me using it.  And you understand that I would change parts of it for the sake of it being confidential.

So, what motivates you?  Maybe you would want to write about one of the following:

What/Who is the biggest influence in your life?

What event/time did you witness that changed you forever?

How did the family you grew up in impact who you are today?

How does your family today impact who you are?

Why do you work where you work?

Why do you worship who you worship?

Why do you serve who you serve?

What makes you get out of bed in the morning?

What makes you not want to get out of bed in the morning?

What do you regret?

What do you hope for?

If you think you might be willing to share your story of what motivates you please write a few sentences, a paragraph, a page or a chapter. Maybe this will be a testimony you will be able to share with others.  Share with me as little or as much as you would like. It may be a sad story; a happy story; a story in progress.  A story of faith, or a story not of faith.  There is no right or wrong story to share, or way to share it.  There is also no time limit for sharing your story.  I had some time to write today, it was a gift.  You may have had a gift that would have prevented you from writing today, or tomorrow.  No rush.  If in a month you have a minute to sit still and think about this...send it to me then.  Even if you have connected with my blog through a friend and you and I haven't met, I would like to hear from you.

It doesn't hurt to ask, right? E-mail to haleyscully@yahoo.com.  If you know of others who might be willing to share their stories, would you consider sharing this blog with them by reposting it on your facebook, or e-mailing them the link? 

I'm thankful to share, blessed that you read, and hoping you may consider sharing with me.

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